Emptiness – Feeling Incomplete
Friends, I got so many suggestions for a new topic. Today it’s about the topic asked by many. What do INCOMPLETE mean? Today we are going to define this word with a different reference. Incomplete means that was unable to complete, that can’t be complete and that might never complete. Today the cry is about those who never succeeded in their emotional world.
Till date, I wrote for those who got a chance to live with their loved ones. Today it’s all about those who struggled and at the end suffered with most painful situations in life.A general trend-They were strangers. They became friends. They started spending time and there came a point when everything is critical. Its point when expressing your feelings will either kill you or heal you. Those who get YES as answer survive. What about those who receive a NO.
Let us understand these things in details. There are three categories of people who give a NO. The first category is already entangled. The second category is the most genuine who always pass a NO because of family pressure. The third category consist of those aren’t interested and are career oriented. So let us discuss in brief.
Today everyone around us right from students to elders is influenced by movies, social media, program based on love stories etc. Those who are in tender age take these things too seriously. “Teenage attraction is not to love” this fact is never understood by them. Even those who are above eighteen fail to understand things which drive them crazy for no reasons. This was a general summary. Let us understand what pain those NO stamped go through.
There are two cases.
CASE 1: Those who are matured never express their feelings with a fear that whatever bond of friendship they have will be destroyed. So they prefer staying quiet and wait for time to do things for them. When they express and get a NO then they get depressed for some time but emerge from this incident very fast and go for some other person. This case is rare these days.
CASE 2: In this case, there exist true feeling keepers who want to entangle but the family pressure never allows them to step forward. They are strongly influenced by “SANSKARS” that never allow them to go against their parents. They are strongly bound by family.
Let us understand the background. Those who receive a NO undergo the worst agony when they understand the fact that their attraction feeling is not the actual attraction but love. They carry genuine affection and true feelings so they suffer the most. There are many who forget and move on because their feelings were mere attraction so it changes with upcoming of different people.
There are so many among us who ended with NO but still live together in a different sense. Let us talk about them. They see each other every day, they spend time together, they are friends or they avoid each other etc. but believe me they are the MOST injured ones. To keep those feelings inside and act normal as if nothing happened is the most difficult task but they do this daily for months and sometimes for years. They do miss each other but never ever express because they know the bitter truth that they never are COMPLETED.
Now I want to talk about pulling these people out from their miserable pain. Parents play an important role in this turmoil. Those parents who are close to their child will console their child maturely and always hammer their views so that child is safe. I agree their intention is not wrong but separating those hearts leave an incurable pain which they aren’t aware of. To respect his/her parents, the child pretends to be normal but go through a hell inside. What about those who aren’t consoled by anyone and have to withstand this on their own? They are the ones who grow too much mature in their tender age and lead a meaningful life. The emotional tornado in their heart always keeps that fire alive.
The most difficult task is what conclusion this topic deserves. Everyone on earth is blessed with happiness. Loving someone isn’t a crime but cursing your life for getting rejected is a crime. Rejection is a green signal that you have better future and it also taunts you that it’s not the time for getting involved in the journey of blind destination. Those who are victims of NO, I will suggest first build your career and then bounce back to your partner and complete your world. When you do this you will come to know whether it was attraction or affection. Nature never do injustice to anyone. You will get what you deserve.
Instead of presuming yourself as the hero of some sad love story, get up right now wipe your tears and start a new journey. Stop taking the support of those sad stories and songs that never let you come out of it. Stop explaining and preserve self-respect. Stay close to your parents and friends and do enjoy life because YOUR LIFE IS NOT MADE TO UNDERGO PAIN FOR A MEANINGLESS REJECTION. YOU FEEL INCOMPLETE BUT LET THE SPARK TURN INTO FIRE AND DRAG YOU TO SUCCESS PEAK AND THEN ASK, THAT TIME EVEN GOD won’t REJECT YOU.
BEST OF LUCK AND KEEP SMILING.
(*Those who are not able to sustain their agony, do mail your story on firstname.lastname@example.org You will get a practical solution to deal with and come out of this turmoil easily)